
I thought I’d start with the cliche photo of this week’s winter storms – as experienced in the Mississippi Delta. It may not look like much to you, but to us, this is major!
It’s been a long time since I’ve posted with any regularity. Truth is, life was kind of a challenge for a while, and rather than whine about it, I just turned inward and got really quiet. It’s pretty much how I handle stress in my real world, too.
So, what’s been going on? Quite a lot, actually. I’ll just touch on the highlights.
About this time last year, my daughter began to recover from a long-standing illness. It was a devastating condition that – I feared – was going to take her life. The problem, as it turned out, was that she really wasn’t sick. She was merely suffering from an extreme reaction to a drug the doctors had been giving her – to relieve a relatively minor problem. For something like four years, they tested and prodded and poked and watched as she spiraled ever downward. It apparently never occurred to any of the doctors at the umpteen Navy hospitals and three VA hospitals to review the known side effects of the medications prescribed for her. Finally, in desperation, she began to do her own research. That was when she ran across the class action suit centered on the drug she was taking…and recognized her symptoms immediately. A few weeks after weaning herself off the medication, it was apparent she had discovered the root of the problem.
Once she was better and strong again, she had to make some decisions about her life. Going back into the Navy seemed the thing to do. But, she preferred to be an officer this time around. So, she enrolled in college and applied for Officer Candidate School under the program that provides financial support to the student while finishing school. It’s a highly competitive, much sought-after slot. She was accepted! We were over the moon! That didn’t last long. The physical proved her undoing. The doctors just couldn’t get past the fact that she had been on disability. Never mind that it was a disability caused by the doctors she had seen. Her career as a Navy officer simply wasn’t going to happen.
So, she applied to go back in as an enlisted person – a right granted her under the terms of the temporary disability program. Same dang thing happened! The doctors kept pronouncing her unfit, based on her “disability.” All this took months…and months. It was up – then down. Worry replaced worry. Forms were filled out. Waivers requested. It was a classic roller coaster ride. Then, the Navy went silent.
During this frustrating silence, she decided to apply for a job she ran across online. Maintenance planner for a regional airline. (Her degree will be in aeronautics management.) They like her! She got the job! She’s been working for them nearly a month now and is loving it. Soon she will move into her own apartment. Suddenly, the sun is shining and the birds are singing. Mama is happy and relieved.
Some people criticize me for being “too close” to my daughter. I don’t understand that attitude. She will forever be a part of me. When she’s not happy…I’m not happy. When life is good for her, I share that, too. We’ve both been through a lot these last several years. A failed marriage and significant health issues for her. The loss of a decades-long job for me. And then we moved halfway across the country and started new lives. I never would have imagined I would experience this much change at this stage of my life. Isn’t this the place where things slow down? I think I missed that boat!
Also during this year of ups and downs, I dealt with the emotional stress of living through the transition of a relationship, as it went from friendship to crush to love. As the poets know, these things never go smoothly. It was two steps forward, one step backward at several points during the year. We still have some issues, but who doesn’t? We have settled into something that is comfortable and fits us well. I’m so thankful to have a kind, loving man in my life. He’s another of those late life surprises.
Through all of this, I continue to work way too hard. My extended family members struggle with issues of their own, which affects our lives as well. In other words…life goes on.
My primary New Year’s resolution was to rewrite my personal cookbook. The first edition was completed when my daughter was a baby! It’s time. I’ll be bringing some of those recipes here as I work through them.
Right now, however, I feel the cold creeping in. I’m so thankful neither of us has any obligations that will take us out on those slick streets today! It’s time to throw another log on the fire and pour another cup of tea. I hope your Saturday is full of warm comforts, too.